"Each person has three different lives -
the person they pretend to be,
the person they are,
and the person they can be.
It's too complicated.
Just murder the person that you pretend to be.
Plunge a knife right into his heart.
Focus your energy on making sure that the person you are
is the same as the person you can be."
- Steve Corona
Today I stumbled across Steve Corona's blog, which puts a huge focus on "self-experimentation", the exact sort of funky shite I've been into recently. This post solidified quite a few ideas for me, like the fact that I should write like myself, not what I think a "blogger" should write like, or that if you want something, you ask for it and go for it. But the biggest "ah-ha" moment came when I read the above quote. I was lying on the ground reading the blog post on my phone, and after read that paragraph, I just had to put my phone down and think for a bit.
Lately I've really been delving into this idea of being a "complete" person, and by that I mean somebody that has an awareness of who they are and who they want to be, and makes a conscious effort for their actions and behaviour to make the person they are and the person they want to be as unified as possible. I'd like to think of myself as a complete person, but I know that everyday I'm adding more to myself. That's not to say I was lacking yesterday, but more so I'm just capable of adding more now, and I'll add even more tomorrow.
Ultimately this is what Steve is trying to communicate and seeing it said by someone else reaffirmed that at the end of the day, all of us just really need to be the best and truest version of ourself we can be.
Not the version we feel we should be, or the version somebody else tells us to be, and definitely not a completely different person altogether. It's great to be inspired and have somebody to look up to, but there is no point in trying to be anybody else but your true self.
I feel like I've known this for a while, but I sort of needed a wake up call. Something to remind me to be myself with my entire mind and heart behind it. I don't want to hold back who I am just because I'm worried it won't be easy for others to understand me - I want to know that I'm doing all I can to be the best and true Me I can be, because I deserve that freedom and happiness that comes along with being yourself wholeheartedly.
And so do you.
So, really all I'm saying is similar to that oh-so overused yet completely under-appreciated quote of "Be Yourself".
But maybe I'll add a bit more:
Be your best and true self.
That doesn't mean be happy 100% of the time and to never just kick back and relax, that just means listen to yourself because you know who you are more than anybody else, and you know who you can be, and who you want to be.
Let's start working towards that. Let's not waste another minute pretending.
Let's just live, because honestly that is the biggest step you can take towards being your true self.